This week we celebrated our eighth anniversary. In some ways it seems like yesterday that I married my best friend. In other ways, it seems as though we’ve been together forever.
We had planned to go to Olive Garden for dinner but… Kristyn had a well baby visit with the doctor at 3:45 which should have still worked out but then the doctor had to go do a delivery. In the meantime the nurses changed shifts and then we had to pick up a prescription at the pharmacy. The pharmacy kept saying they didn’t have the script and kept telling us 15 minutes. You get the picture. In the end we enjoyed a light supper at a coffee shop and then went shopping. We got home late. Then we laid in bed together and laughed!
Here is a peak into our marriage:
My husband is easygoing and more quiet and carefully thinks through ALL his decisions. He is tall and handsome with black hair. He is skinny and hard-working. On the other hand, I am a Type A personality. I am talkative and outgoing. I make spur of the moment decisions often ending up in “flying by the seat of my pants”. I love adventure. Although I am tall, I am rotund as well, very much sporting a mommy shape. By the way, don’t they say that opposites attract? We are classics, then 🙂
Being opposites can also bring tension. The key is to find ways of blessing each other’s differences. We both have some strange idiosyncracies. For example, Conrad’s showers isn’t complete till he has thoroughly rinsed off his feet before hopping out. This niggles at me especially when we are rushing to get somewhere on time. My theory is that the water has been rinsing your feet through out the whole time you were showering. My must have idiosyncracies is that I need my covers on the bed shaken out nice and straight (even if the bed was made) before I can go to sleep otherwise I simply don’t sleep as well. Conrad thinks that the covers will get messed up sleeping in them. I tell him that after I’m gone, when he is an old man, he will stand up on the bed and shake them out just to remember me.
It’s important to find common ground in marriage. Our common ground is spiritual. We both have hearts that are hungry for God and we both have a desire to be actively involved in God’s work. When we got married, I was sure physical intimacy was going to the biggest common ground we’d have. I think that is funny now. It’s called newlywed syndrome! Physical intimacy depends on much more than just connecting bodies. We’ve found that with young children it is especially simple to pass one another by in all the busyness. And with young children, parents are often weary from lack of sleep and hard work. Some of the things we’ve enjoyed is attending seminars together, mini golfing, nature hikes, and picnics.
Marriage is very much like a garden. If you want a beautiful one, it takes HARD work. You have to invest time, money, and most of all one’s self. Have you ever noticed how divorced and remarried couples act as if they are so in love? I’ve often thought that if they would have invested that same attention and care to their first marriage, their first marriage would still be in tact.
How will you choose to invest in the love of your life? How will you bless your soul mate today? What are your tips on keeping your marriage alive and thriving? I’d love to hear from you my readers! And if you are single, invest in the relationships around you! Some of the things that pertain to marriage also pertain to many other relationships.
And in celebration of our anniversary and the half-year mark of blogging, look for a GIVE AWAY in the next couple of weeks!