I am a coupon cutting mom. In fact, I love getting a good bargain. This week when I stopped in at CVS I couldn’t find my $1.00 off coupon. “Oh,” I said to the cashier, “I did have a coupon but I think I must have left it in the vehicle.” So she said I should go check. I did. I went and dug around trying to find it to no avail. So I come in and pay and my total was $0.53. As I finished paying I spied my coupon. I was not very happy about that. Then I went to Giant and was looking for another coupon I’d not put away properly and AGAIN I couldn’t find it! I was doubly unhappy then! That one was for a free pack of cookies up to $1.99. Things were not going my way and I was upset. I trot past the bakery and how I wanted to buy a big box of doughnuts to comfort eat! I began complaining quietly to God. “WHY!? Why did this happen to me? I could have saved some more money. So on and so forth!” Then it “hit me between the eyes” so to speak. Who was I to demand that God find me my coupon I carelessly misplaced? Who was I to speak like that to an almighty God who always does what is best for His children? Who was I insisting that God be my slot machine, pressing the right button and out pops what I want?

Do you ever comfort eat? Do you demand things of God? Do you ever complain about what life has handed you? Maybe you are not like me. My pride stank! I don’t want to serve a god that is only as big as me! I needed to realize ALL the doughnuts and chocolate candy and chips in the world wouldn’t take away my feelings. That it would only give me more negative feelings like guilt. My actions reminded me of the Israelites in their wilderness wonderings. “In Egypt, we had the leeks and the garlics, the melons…”

In those moments, I had a choice was I going to be grouchy because things didn’t go MY way? Or was I going to choose the high road? The one of releasing it to God and asking Him to help me choose joy and peace. Was I seriously going to let $3.00 ruin my day? Or was I going to rejoice in that I had the $3.00 extra?

I managed to take God’s way and ended up enjoying the rest of the day. Today, which road will you choose?

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Who Are You?

Are you orange juice?

Are you a doughnut?

Are you a hard-boiled egg?

I know these are interesting questions but it is what has been on my heart after a conversation with my husband the other day. Do you know that you fit into one of these three categories? Some people have other names for them such as a tough girl, party girl, and the people pleaser. These are my titles.

Are you the orange juice girl? The orange juice girl is one who is pleasing. Pleasing everyone that’s around her. She flows like juice does into every nook and cranny where her kindness is “perceived” to be needed. She is the one who will go the second and third mile to make sure she is accepted by those around her. Deep underneath all the kindness is this huge fear that if she says “no” or does not respond perfectly in a given situation, she will be rejected. If her pleasant taste isn’t experienced just maybe she will be poured away.

Maybe you are the doughnut girl? This girl is like a huge cream filled doughnut stuffed with sweet filling and then rolled in white doughnut powder. The doughnut girl is fun and fluff. She is the one you can hang out with on any given day. She is the one who will be available to party at 11:00 a.m. or 11:00 p.m. She knows how to make a joke out of pretty much anything. When you are with her, you can be sure laughter will be around as much as the powder on your doughnut shows on your face. The laughter and party conceals a heart that is afraid of being real, of vulnerability. The doughnut girl is used to coping with pain through laughter.

If you don’t see yourself in the top two examples, maybe you are the hard-boiled egg. The hard-boiled egg girl is the one who can be counted on. She is the one who can walk into a tough situation and not appear to be bothered. She knows what she thinks. She knows why she thinks what she does. She also knows her action plans to pull things off. She can be a faithful supporter. The hard-boiled egg girl is tough just like the shell of a hard-boiled egg she needs cracked open to see what’s inside. This hard-boiled egg girl has learned that life isn’t safe. She has been deeply wounded and betrayed and finds it very difficult to allow people to see the golden “yoke” that is her heart. If you get beyond the tough exterior, you will find a gold mine of resources.

Which girl are you? The orange juice girl, the doughnut girl, and the hard-boiled egg girl all have something important, something good. This something good is valuable until it becomes a coping mechanism to protect yourself from relationships that are deep and meaningful.

For myself, I find that often I try to be to people what I think they want. If you want an orange juice girl, I’ll try to be nice. If you want the doughnut girl, I’ll party for an evening or two or three. But normally I find that most often I am the hard-boiled egg  girl. I am the one who many times appears as the “rock”.  I came to realize  that I was coping with life through being tough. In some rocky situations, I’d shut my heart down; giving everyone around me the tough outer shell of a hard-boiled egg. There has been too much pain by being honest and open with people only to have them betray you. The risk of loving was too great and so I found myself shutting down. Do you do this type of thing in your styles of relating? Or am I the only one?  The Holy Spirit is gently working with me. Do I want to live my life being tough? Yes, God has given me a strong personality but He wants a soft golden heart along with the toughness. What does God want from you?

Today I bless each of you; my readers as you figure out what type of girl you are and what God wants from you! May He be glorified!