Worry & the BellyAche

I suppose you heard the saying “Worry is like a rocking chair. It goes back and forth but gets you no where.” I disagree with that quote. Some times it gets you sick! Recently, my husband and I were working down in the basement when in passing he asks me if I was feeling ok. I said sure but wondered if he isn’t. He was like “No, I think I’m getting sick.” Those aren’t words I enjoy hearing and immediately I began thinking that he must be getting the stomache bug. Now there are few things I detest worse than the stomach bug. So I began mentally plotting a way to outsmart it. I began taking vitamins and more vitamins and over the counter medications and so forth. Well, it was no wonder that after a while I soon wasn’t feeling real hot. Conrad wondered what was up so I told him.  He began laughing. Here he meant that he thought he was getting a head cold! And I went to bed with a very unhappy stomach because I was trying to outwit my supposed stomach bug that was coming!

Worry is like that!It comes naturally. Worry can make you physically sick. It isn’t worth it! It can even make you go crazy after a while. Is it any wonder, the Bible is full of verses like these?

1 Peter 5:7  “Casting all your care upon him; for he cares for you.”

Matthew 11:28 “Come unto me, all you that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”

Phillipians 4:8 “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest,
whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are
lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if
there be any praise, think on these things.”

So the next time you are tempted to worry, think of my bellyache. Trust me, it doesn’t feel very good! By the way, better ways of coping would be to pray, talk with someone else, journall, take a walk, and the list goes on…

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How do you cope with worry? I’d love to hear from you!

 

 

 

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Mental Health Awareness Day

Today October 11, is national mental health screening day. This is a subject that comes close to my heart as I personally have walked a mental health journey. Depression isn’t easy. Mental illness isn’t easy. There are several different types of clinical depression. Major depression is lower mood levels as well as loss of pleasure that last over several weeks and interferes with one’s normal functioning and can include physical symptoms. Dysthymia, often called melancholy, is a less severe form of depression that often lasts for several years that include bouts of feeling normal. Bipolar disorder is severe depression alternating with elation called mania. Seasonal Affective Disorder is depression caused as a result of fewer daylight hours. Also called the winter blues. It can be severe. Psychotic depression is when depression and hallucinations and delusions occur at the same time.The sufferer loses touch with reality. You can take a several tests: www.mentalhealthscreening.org

What are some causes of depression? Some of the main causes are biology, genetics, gender, age, health conditions, trauma, grief, changes, stressful events, drugs, and substance abuse. Another cause of depression, which you won’t find scientifically documented, is sin. If there is sin in one’s life this can cause the depression. 1 Timothy 1:19 In my personal battle with depression a lot of it is the fight to embrace Phil. 4:8&9 In God’s Word, He commands us to “take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ”. Yes, change, stressful events, genetics, grief, and trauma have also been key components but embracing God’s Word and believing in faith has been the biggest help.

Let’s look at some helps for depression. PRAY! The community of Christian believers is priceless. Here are a few more helps.

  • Talk to one person about your feelings.
  • Help someone else by volunteering.
  • Have lunch or coffee with a friend.
  • Ask a loved one to check in with you regularly.
  • Accompany someone to the movies, a concert, or a small get-together.
  • Call or email an old friend.
  • Go for a walk with a workout buddy.
  • Schedule a weekly dinner date.
  • Meet new people by taking a class or joining a club.
  • Confide in a counselor, therapist, or clergy member.

Remember that depression is serious! It does not normally go away by its self. Remember that each person’s symptoms and triggers and cure will look differently.

For further info:

http://www.adaa.org

http://www.emedicinehealth.com/depression/article_em.htm

http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/facing_crisis/dealing_with_depression/depression_reject_the_guilt_embrace_the_cure.aspx

http://www.cbn.com/spirituallife/cbnTeachingSheets/Depression.aspx

Tippy Tuesday

“Tip for Tuesday”

This is a rather interesting post. I think if I can I will start posting small, easy, time-saving, frugal tips on Tuesdays.

This one is kind of joke, though.

-To Save Money on Tissues-

First of all you need a nice brand new box of Kleenex or the equivalent.  A good place to buy reasonably priced tissues is at Aldi or Dollar Tree. Then you need a young child around the age of two or three. Have them take the box of tissues to your room and tell them to place it on your nightstand. You will discover sooner or later that the box of tissues has been conveniently torn apart to see what treasures may lurk with in. Because of your money-saving mindset you will not want to throw away the tissues because you just bought them. Place the pulled out, disoriented tissues in the drawer of your nightstand and use as needed. This happened to me recently and I do believe this is the longest lasting box of tissues I’ve ever had. And it sure saves pennies!:)

Contemplations on C-Section Births

With the birth of our daughter being born via c-section, many people have inquired whether I prefer a regular birth experience or a c-section. I thought I’d just share my birth story and some information I’ve gathered since, for your interest. Vaginal or cesarean? There are many thoughts and opinions surrounding those two words considering a birth experience.

Here is some information on Cesarean Births in the United States:

~The World Health Organization’s finds that c-sections performed above 10% is considered more harm than good. Currently the United States has a 32% rate of cesarean.

~Mayo Clinic reports that certain risks are higher after a Caesarean than after a vaginal birth this includes infections of the bladder/uterus, injury to the mother/baby, risks in future pregnancies and higher risk of postpartum depression.

~Common side effects of caesarean are fatigue, incision pain, constipation, bleeding, cramping, pelvic pain, depression, and post traumatic stress disorder.

For this pregnancy I had a midwife but still planned for a hospital birth. At the last check-up before our daughter was born, the midwife said, “I think she’s breach”. She then ordered an ultrasound which proved not only was she a breech baby she was a “double footling” breech baby. Only 3% of all breech babies are what they call a “double footling” breech. When this was confirmed, I knew the next day I would have an appointment with an OB/GYN doctor who specializes in higher risk births. I inquired about my options. What could I do? What is safe? How long do I have? Can I wait till I go into labor on my own? Since the risks were too high, we scheduled a cesarean the next day. We had to be at the hospital at 6:00 a.m. for my c-section at 9:00. I was very scared and nervous. I had never had any major surgery. I was trembling. Thankfully, God knew who I needed for my anesthesiologist. There was a student who was cheerful and outgoing and then the experienced one who was calm and very assuring. When they did wheel me into the operating room, I was so scared I began to cry. After administering the spinal block, I no longer had any feeling from my chest down but was totally cognitive. Everything then proceeded as an average c-section surgery.  Once in recovery they hooked me up to Pitocin to help control the bleeding so for the next 7 hours. On top of the surgical pain then I could also feel contractions from the “Pit”.  For twenty-four hours after surgery I was completely immobile. The hospital staff did excellent with pain relief and support.  It was very difficult to laugh, cry, and sneeze. You’ve got no clue how many stomach muscle you use on any given day until they cut through all the layers:) I LOVED being in the maternity ward for the following three days. Just having nurses at your every call and catering to every need was really good. I could rest and not have to worry about taking care of the other children or trying to do steps at home.  For a vaginal birth, I usually stay only twenty-four hours afterward.

There are pro’s and con’s of either birthing plans. Personally here is my ideas. For a  cesarean, people are a lot more willing to pitch in and help. I’ve gotten more meals than I ever did with my other two babies. I’ve got full-time help. I do think recovery is more difficult. I’d rather be up and doing my things at my speed instead I’ve got to use caution. The emotional after effects of major surgery are greater. In fact, my midwife informed that my risk for postpartum depression is around 95%. I’ve had breastfeeding problems which I’ve discovered is not uncommon in cesarean births. For a vaginal birth, I could pretty much do what I wanted with in a week of giving birth. My hospital stay wasn’t as long and if I tore there was pain from the stitches which wasn’t as nice. Pretty much all around a vaginal birth is definitely better for mom and baby.

For additional advice/info:

ICAN The International Cesarean Awareness Network aims to improve maternal-child health by preventing unnecessary cesarean through education, provide support for cesarean recovery, and promote Vaginal Birth After Cesarean (VBAC). It has a register of care providers, informative FAQs and a community.

I’d like to hear from my readers. What type of birth did you have? What side-effects have you experienced? What helped you or your family adjust to a new one?

Character Building Wednesday

Hi everyone! How did letter “G” go for you this past week? Our choice of words was gladness and gratitude. Being grateful has a way of changing how one looks at life. Sure enough there were bumps in our life in the past week and YES it was difficult to be thankful for them. Like knowing that I offended someone because I see things as black and white. When something is wrong and  I know its wrong then I am not afraid to stand for right. This at times causes offenses. How does one be grateful for negative reactions? On the other hand, I found so many things to be grateful for all week-long and really mean it. Things like hubby going yard sailing with me, walks on the old railroad bed as the children rode bike, for my parents, being able to celebrate Conrad’s Grandpa’s 85th birthday after which the family sang, and many other things.

Things that make me glad:

    Poppop buys watermelon for his one and only~Jordan. A delightful treat that the whole family benefits from! In April, watermelon tastes yummy!

 

Watermelon dribbles on the chins and table and my freshly washed kitchen floor.

 

 

 

Beautiful Sunday evenings for walks and bike rides.

Healthy minds

Healthy bodies

Healthy relationships

Bicycles in the ditch.

Strength to get them out .

 

 

 

Beautiful springtime flowers. These smelled awesome!

 

 

 

The list goes on. Like the freshly weeded garden, even though it’s not completed it’s getting there. The rolls and rolls of giggles of delight as Daddy blows under little lad’s arm. A working happy family, sure we have our quarrels and disagreements but it doesn’t stop there, we seek to work through them. Of course, God’s faithfulness and leading in our lives! He’s been SO very good to us!

Now for this week.

Health

What words will you choose? Here is some suggestions to get you thinking -hygiene, hope, happiness, healing choices, helping,  hearing

What is our game plan for the week? Making healthy choices specifically physical health but also emotional and spiritual health. Let’s start with physical health. This means getting to bed at a decent hour as it is not unusual for my little ones to be going strong at 10:00 p.m. Physical health means taking our vitamins, brushing teeth, and drinking enough water. And simple things like washing our hands properly. We will likely take a trip the library and pick up a book or two on health for the kids. Emotional health will be processing our emotions in a good way. This means talking through obstacles that arise. We will build healthy relationships by not getting so busy we don’t have quality time together. Spiritual health will mean enjoying time around God’s Word like acting out verses in the Proverbs such as the straight and the crooked paths. Spiritual health may also include listening to uplifting Christian music.

I hope you will join me on this fascinating journey! What word/words will you choose for “H”? What is your game plan? I’d be thrilled to hear from you! May God bless you!

Speed Bump Ahead

There is speed bump ahead for me in blogging. Time is rapidly approaching the birth of our third child. There are a few things I learned this time. #1 Pregnant women are not made to work outside in flower beds or gardens even though spring is just begging them to do so. #2 I learned that children have no concept of why mommy isn’t thrilled when she has thirty pounds trying to sit on her growing abdomen. #3 Pregnancy is HARD work! The list could go on. Just use your imagination and your probably close.

In the next few weeks you may find that my posts are less often. As time winds down, there is more appointments and more things that need done so I hope you will bear with me. I currently am hoping that I can remember to take care of myself in the next couple weeks. With beautiful spring and summer weather coming, it’s hard for me to rest and find myself easily overdoing it. I also struggled with postpartum depression after both of my other children. If you think of me and our family, we would covet your prayers in the next number of weeks as we adjust to new life, new schedules, and new joy. Thank you!

Character Building Wednesday

Howdy friends! I’m finally getting around to typing this since I had a very busy day! How did letter “D” go for you? Our words we chose were discipline and delight. It’s amazing how when you focus on character qualities like this it brings to the forefront the area of need. discipline is one we still need to work at especially with punctual bedtime and getting up on time. We love our evenings and nights because this is when we kick back from the day and connect as a family. But even the good things need boundaries. Delight was very good too. Delighting in the good, the bad, and everything in between. Delighting in messing dishes and sand on the newly wash kitchen floor. Delight in playing hospital with Nurse April and Doctor Jordan complete with toilet paper casts, Smartie candy pills, and hand lotion salve. Now for this week, letter

Encourage and Exercise

These are the two words we chose for this week. In looking for two words to focus on, my husband jokingly said that we should choose Enteman’s; the fine connoisseur of baked goods, and exercise. Entemann’s hardly qualifies as a character builder. Here some other words to trigger your thinking-eager, empathy, endurance, and entertain.

Encourage is to give someone hope, inspiration, courage and confidence. Encourage is to support, foster, and cheer. How often do the things we say in any given day fall into this category? I know this one area I really need help. It’s easier to see the negative than to bring out the positive. There is a quote that says it well: “Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I will not forget you.” -William Arthur Ward Look for opportunities in this next week to speak life into others! This is especially true if you have children! Use the frustrating moments for teaching moments.

The second word we chose was exercise. Our goal is to be healthy and keep a healthy weight as a family. Conrad delightedly believes he can now escape participating in this one since he discovered he has bursitis in his hip. He’s quite sure that it could make it worse. Exercise certainly isn’t my idea of fun but whenever I am active I know I’m getting healthy. Do you know the benefits of exercise? Here is just a few of the many reasons for it. Exercise increases immunity, fights numerous diseases such as heart disease, lifts one’s mood and fights depression, and increases one’s energy. So kudos to our family as we strive to be faithful this week in this area!

Won’t you join me on this journey of building character? What words will you choose for letter “E”? I’d love to hear from you!

Blessings!